How to Not Let Things Bother You

A Life Coach’s Guide to Holding Onto Your Power, Even on the Hardest Days

Have you ever felt like one more sarcastic comment, spilled cup of juice, or unwashed dish might just push you over the edge?

You’re not alone.

As a mom juggling the demands of kids, work, home, and a partner, you're constantly being pulled in a million directions. It’s no wonder little things can feel huge when you’re already stretched thin. But here’s the truth I’ve learned and it changed everything:

You don’t have to give away your peace so easily.

You’ve worked too hard for it. You deserve to protect it like you would your own child.

In this blog, I’ll show you how to not let things trigger or bother you using a simple, yet powerful mindset shift I use every day (and teach in my coaching). It’s not about pretending you're never upset because that’s not real life. It’s about knowing when it’s truly worth it... and when it’s not.

Let’s dive in.

Step 1: Ask Yourself, “Is This Worth My Peace?”

When something irritates you, pause and ask:

“Is this going to change my life?”
“Is it really that important in the grand scheme of things?”

We often give too much energy to things that don’t deserve it. A rude comment. A missed text. A partner forgetting the laundry. These things feel big in the moment but most of them aren’t life-altering.

Imagine your inner peace is like a sick child who finally found rest. Would you let someone barge in and wake them up? Of course not.

Protect your peace the same way.

Step 2: Weigh It Out Like a Scale

I picture a scale in my mind. On one side: my peace. On the other: whatever just triggered me.
If the situation is truly meaningful like something that touches your values or threatens your well-being, then yes, it might deserve your reaction.

But if it’s minor or rooted in someone else’s bad day?

Let it go.

Most things won’t even matter tomorrow. Don’t let them rent space in your mind today.

Coach Tip:

Journal your triggers. Patterns will emerge that show you where you’re wasting energy and where deeper wounds may need healing.

Step 3: Choose the Response, Not the Reaction

You are not a robot reacting on impulse. You are a powerful, thoughtful, and capable woman.
Respond with intention.

If you’re triggered, take a deep breath. Step away if you need to. Ask yourself:

“How would my Highest Self handle this?”

(Spoiler alert: she’s calm, centered, and fierce.)

Reacting gives your power away. Responding puts you back in the driver’s seat.

You don't have to accept every invitation that you get into an argument, or into any conversation that you are uncomfortable with.

Bottom line: You don't have to say "yes" to any invitation that you are not 100% comfortable with.

Step 4: Protect Your Inner Peace Like a Sacred Space

Just like a mom protects her sick child’s sleep, you must guard your peace like it’s precious, because it is.

If something threatens to steal your happiness, imagine putting up an energetic "Do Not Disturb" sign. That means:

• Saying “no” to drama
  

• Ignoring things not meant for you
  

• Walking away when you need to

You worked for your peace. Don’t hand it away to just anything or anyone.

💬 Book your Free Empowered Moms call - Consult call

If this resonates, and you’re tired of giving your energy away to things that don’t matter, I invite you to book your Free Empowered Moms call - Consult Call. Together, we’ll create your personalized peace protection plan so you can live, laugh, and love again without guilt or burnout. You don’t have to do it alone.

Additional Tips:

✅ Use Affirmations like:

“I protect my peace because I deserve to feel good.”
“I am not available for unnecessary stress.”
“My peace is non-negotiable.”

✅ Kill the ANTS – Automatic Negative Thoughts. Recognize them, challenge them, and replace them with truth.

✅ Mirror Work: Look into your eyes and say, “I choose peace. I choose me.”

✅ Practice Gratitude Daily: Shift your focus away from what’s wrong and toward what’s working. Gratitude grounds you in the present.

⚠️ Avoid These Common Mistakes:

• Reacting too quickly—without processing
  

• Taking everything personally
  

• Believing every thought is true
  

• Expecting others to change so you can feel peace
  

Conclusion: Your Peace is Power

Protecting your peace isn’t weakness, it’s wisdom. It’s motherhood in its most powerful, aligned form. The more you practice weighing out what truly matters, the stronger and more resilient you’ll become.

Remember: You’ve worked hard to get here. Your inner peace is sacred. Guard it fiercely.
Not everything deserves a reaction. Not every battle needs a warrior.

But when it does? You’ll be ready. Because you are a BADASS WARRIOR.

You are rising.

👉 Book your Free Empowered Moms call - Consult call today and let’s create the peace-filled life you crave and deserve.